Bullies and the
effect they have on others
By “Just Valerie”
The attitude that kids will be kids, and to overlook the bad behavior of a child at the elementary school
age is no longer acceptable. The fact is that, children that are bullied carry the effects into their adult life. On the other
hand, the bullies carry bad behavior into their adult life as well (in most cases). We are living in a day that some recent
parents think that it’s cute to see their young off-springs show signs of aggression toward other children, feeling
this shows strength and not weakness. I have seen parents give their kids high five in approval of what they so-called punking
out another child.
Being, bullied is not a good feeling at any age. The humiliation
of being bullied and, demeaned by your peers is a scar that most carry through-out their lives. A message to the parent of
a bully, if the shoe was on the other foot, and it was your child that was being bullied, what would your reaction be? Could
you then understand it when the child that your child is bulling, parent tells their child which is the victim, to fight back
and the bully is defeated, when in most cases they are. Statistics shows that the majority of bullies pick on the victims
that they feel are weaker than them or the victim that doesn’t try to defend themselves against their bully. Would you
go to the parent of the child and try to fight showing your ignorance? In essences showing why your child is the child that
the principle knows for being a problem-child? Instead of the above mentioned,
you should try and get your child professional help on anger management. Instead of praising your child for having bad behavior,
praise them for being a child with a good character.
The statistics show that the majority of bullies
grow-up to be aggressive adults with criminal records of crimes, such as murder, sexual assault, aggravated assault with or
without a deadly weapon. If they aren’t killed themselves, by someone defending themselves against the assault of the
bully now called an assailant. This reminds me of an old rap song by N.W.A., the verse goes “my baby ain’t never
hurt nobody” and the reply to that verse was “and he still got smoked at Ba-Ba’s party”.
Parents, please notice your children, you are adults now.
If you want your child to grow up in spite of your thinking that it’s cute to be a bully or to showing that he or she
is stronger than another child in a violent way. Know that, the most successful people that advance in a positive way as adults,
display good character during their childhood. It’s not a bad thing to seek professional help for your child if it has
a problem, it’s a good thing. If you yourself have a problem that wasn’t treated as a child because for whatever
reason, some families think its taboo to seek counseling, but it isn’t taboo it’s a good thing and it helps. If
you have a child in your care and it has behavioral problem, get help for it, if you don’t think anything is wrong with
the child having a behavioral problems, then I say to you…get help for yourself. Remember, there is always somebody
that’s out there that feels they are a bad as the next. If we promote good character in our children it makes for a
better world all around. We should and most do want the best for our children, even if it goes against the way we think now
or as a child. Instilling good character as a must should be a principle rule in raising a child.
Our children are our future, it doesn’t matter about what mistakes as adults we have made in life, it’s
our responsibility to want better for our children. Take responsibility and address the problem. If you don’t the Bureau
of Prisons, or the Cemetery will.
